There is something interesting that happens when you start to look at yourself through different lenses. Personality tests, frameworks, labels that attempt to define who you are.
At first, they can feel insightful. Like they are giving language to parts of you that you recognize. But then, at a certain point on the journey, something shifts.
They stop fitting.
You begin to see that who you are is not fixed. That the answers you would have given years ago are not the answers you would give today. That parts of you that once felt true no longer resonate in the same way.
Because this path asks something deeper of you. It asks you to evolve. To let go of the versions of yourself that were built to survive, so that something more authentic can emerge.
What we often call personality is, in many ways, a collection of patterns. Ways of being that were shaped by your experiences, your environment, your need to feel safe in the world. Some of those patterns may have served you beautifully at one point. They may have helped you belong, be loved, or navigate difficult situations.
But that doesn’t mean they are meant to stay forever.
There comes a time when those layers begin to loosen. When the parts of you that once defined you no longer feel like the full truth. And in those moments, it can feel disorienting. Like you are not quite who you used to be, but not fully clear on who you are becoming.
This is the space of transformation.
It is not always comfortable. There can be resistance, grief, even fear in letting go of familiar identities. Even the ones that seemed positive or well-loved by others. Because underneath them, there may have been a deeper need, a way you were protecting yourself without even realizing it.
And as you begin to release those layers, something else becomes available.
More truth. More freedom. More alignment with who you actually are beneath it all.
This is not about fixing yourself or becoming someone better. It is about shedding what is no longer true. Allowing the parts of you that are ready to move on to do so, with care, with awareness, and sometimes with a sense of ceremony.
Because you are not meant to stay the same.
You are meant to change. To evolve. To meet yourself again and again in new ways.
So instead of asking who you are supposed to be, maybe the question becomes simpler.
What part of you is ready to be released?
Listen to the full teaching on this episode of Soul Coaching.
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