So often, we think we’re seeing what’s in front of us, but really what we are seeing through is a lens created by ourselves.
This is called projection and it is what happens when we overlay our past onto the present. It’s not always obvious and it can show up in our lives so subtly so it is a sacred act to pay attention to it.
Every interaction, every situation, every person is in fact just a mirror for your inner world.
A casual comment that feels like rejection.
A friend’s silence that you interpret as abandonment.
A partner’s accidental stomp that you take as punishment.
Someone’s sudden mood shift that doesn’t quite match your expectations.
What if others were not meaning to hurt you?
Projection is when we fall into the well worn pattern of making other people’s actions and reactions about us… when most of the time… it is NOT.
So when we don’t recognize it for what it is, we act from it. We assume, defend, spiral.
Yet, when you do recognize it for what it is, you get to reclaim your power.
When you pause long enough to witness the pattern, you might realize: their actions aren’t really directed at ME.
But rather, what they are doing is activating something INSIDE me that is asking to be seen and tended to.
When you can meet these tender parts of yourself with love, not blame, you can respond differently and create more spacious, authentic relationships, and not just with others, but also with yourself.
When you have the courage to lovingly watch your projections, you realize that healing isn’t about controlling the outside world, it’s about staying in relationship with what’s inside YOU.
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